Are YOU stressing yourself out?

Do you ever catch yourself saying “It shouldn’t be this hard?” and then you hear back “Life is hard, deal with it.” Hmm, well who’s right?

When we push against who we naturally are, we feel stress, things don’t progress easily, we beat ourselves up for getting crappy results, everything is an effort. ~You are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero

The above quote struck home with me as I was reading the chosen πŸ“– with my book club. Maybe it’s not your job, your situation, your circumstances, maybe it’s YOU, that is creating the stress you feel. Uh oh. Yup, I went there.

I know it’s been true for me. The good news is that if it’s YOU, you can fix it. If it’s your lot in life then you’re a victim and things will never change. Personally, I’d rather it be my fault, my responsibility and thus also my ability to change it, wouldn’t you?

For me, one way I was pushing against who I am was with a simple little thing like scheduling my day and having a structured to-do list. ABSOLUTELY wrong! Every single thing I would do then became so hard, I felt miserable, pressed for time, that I wasn’t accomplishing enough. I was tired, frustrated and beating myself up. And then tomorrow would come and half of my list I had to carry over to the new day, writing it all out again – ugh! And so it went day after day. The list never stopped, I never felt good about myself and yes, I was stressed.

What I decided to do was to let go of the belief that making money has to be hard work and that if I’m having fun and not slaving away working my tail off round the clock like others around me who are also building their own businesses, I must not be working hard enough.

What this change in mindset looks like for me is focusing on doing more of the fun stuff. Imagine that! LOL. I always say that I can do anything when I’m having fun! And it’s working.

I still have a written list and I do plan my goals for the month. I even review my list daily. The difference is that now it’s a master list and I’m working on all of it, all the time. I go with the flow. As ideas strike me, I do them right then, not pausing only to write it down as an addition to The List to be time scheduled later.

Follow me on this totally under-exaggeration of an example: I’ll be sending out a simple email and it’ll take me an hour or even two 😳 as I go off on tangents. I’ll have 15 other things going on at the same time- an idea for a blog post strikes me so I immediately go write it before the inspiration leaves me. At the same time I’m also playing ball with the dogs and making lunch, which reminds me to go get dinner for the dogs out of the freezer in the garage and as I’m putting it in the laundry room tub to thaw I think to throw a load of clothes in the washer, which leads me to grab the dirty clothes in the closet hamper where I see a shirt I wanted to use in a video and as the lighting is perfect outside (I know as I’m still playing ball) I might as well do a live video now before I miss the light. Then, I text someone I needed to follow up with which brings me back to my email as I’ve now thought of exactly what to say and three more people I want to email. 😜

Does this make you crazy? Thing is, NOT doing life this way makesΒ me crazy. And every self help book and strategies in the ‘how to be successful’ books I’ve tried to implement lead me into exhaustion, stress and a complete lack of joy, all while I’m doing what I should be doing, that, according to the experts, is the only way to achieve my goals. Huh.

But see, I know what are my top priorities and I keep coming back to them, in my own time. I allow myself to have the flexibility to create, to play, to have fun. I might block a time frame to do some work and have a couple things in mind but during that time I could be all over the map. I used to beat myself up about that – “why the heck does it take you TWO HOURS to send one email?!!”

Now I celebrate moving in a way that works for me. Accomplishment has become my new middle name! 😎 I’m getting loads more βœ… while at the same time having way more fun.

When you listen to your heart and connect with who you’re meant to become, you have energy because you’re in a state of flow, things happen more easily, opportunities land in your lap, you’re turned on, inspired, engulfed in a sea of brilliant ideas. ~Jen Sincero

Doesn’t that ⬆️ sound sooo much better?? It feels loads better too!

What does listening to your heart look like?

Why not take a few minutes when you have a peaceful moment, maybe in the morning with your cup of coffee, and dwell on that question. Take note of what thoughts come to mind. Don’t dismiss anything, no matter how crazy it sounds. Then commit to doing at least one thing you’ve noted down that speaks to who you are, that makes you smile just looking at the sentence you’ve written. 😊 I’d love to hear what comes up for you!

If you’d like to be in the company of other women who are creating lives of Love and Joy you’re warmly invited to join us in our Facebook group here.

The Joie Chronicles Day 23 – Inspiration and Dreams

It’s Day 23 of my 31 Day Live Video Challenge….

I was blessed to chat with Roberta Reeves on her magical European Quest to find lost family members and the Black Madonna.

Who/what IS the Black Madonna anyway?? She explains about the legend. Plus, she shares about her new love (it’s not a guy) and what adventures are next on the horizon!

I was so fired up and inspired afterwards, my head was exploding with ideas and excitement. I hope you feel the same way after watching! πŸ™‚

4 Switches to Turn ON Your Passion

Are you looking for your passion?

Have you ever said “I’m just not passionate about what I do”?

Heck, I personally have expressed part of the reason why I left my career in the Corporate World as that I no longer knew what I was passionate about and I wanted to take some time to figure it out.

Well, thank goodness! I have been disabused of that terrible notion. 😜 I’ve learned that you don’t ‘lose’ your passion. It’s not something that can be found. Its always there inside of you but like electricity, you may have just turned the light switch OFF. So then, how do we flip the switch and get the lights back ON?

If you’re ready to have your “lack of passion” excuse (yup, I’m calling it like I see it) for not taking action or making progress taken away….(mine was!) then continue reading and as you do, ask yourself- Which light switch is MINE? Ready?…Read on!

4 Light Switches you can flip to turn ON your passion—-

Switch #1

Being Passionate about WHAT you do.

Contrary to common belief, and mine too until recently, this isn’t where all of passion lives and dies. WHAT you do IS a switch but needs a dose of reality thrown in.

Work is going to suck 95% of the time. But that other 5% is freaking awesome! – Darren Hardy

You can’t say it much plainer than that! 😊

There’s so much I do really love about the company I’ve partnered with, Nerium International. Way more than 5% worth! Why have I chosen Nerium, why will I never leave and why do I have dreams again? Listen in!

But following the system day in and day out, mastering the mundane, dealing with disappointment, the foibles of people, sigh….now that is not what I love.

Switch #2

Being Passionate about WHY you do it.

What is your mission? What do you want to accomplish with what you’re doing? What gets you out of bed in the morning?
My WHY is to enable my husband to walk away from his J.O.B., create a magical life of Personal Freedom for us both and help others to Dare Greatly and achieve their Dreams.
Its been said more times then I can count, that if your why doesn’t make you cry it’s not strong enough. If you truly love the results of what you do, then you’ll be able to get thru the other 95% of the time.
If this is YOUR switch then drill down deep into your WHY and be crystal clear on it, write it out and hang it where you will look at it daily.

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. – Mark Twain

Switch #3

Being Passionate about HOW you do it.

Do you bring all of your passion and enthusiasm to doing quality work, regardless if it is a seemingly mundane task? If you aren’t fueled by recognition, applause and gratitude in order to execute the HOWs with excellence then this may be your switch.

Its not the how’s- its HOW you do the how’s that matter. – Jeff Olson

That a seemingly insignificant HOW is so powerful was a wonderful surprise for me. I do the HOW by putting ME into everything thing I do, being Real, being Happy, having Fun and doing it the way it feels right, always being true to myself. I AM happy, excited and passionate because of what I do and why and whoΒ I do it for. And yes, there’s a tiny bit of perfectionism in the mix too. πŸ˜‰

Switch #4

Being Passionate about WHO you do it for.

The WHO could be your family, your children, anyone or any group of people, even a country, as long as it’s NOT you.

If you haven’t found something you are willing to die for, you aren’t fit to live. – Martin Luther King JR

If this is YOUR switch when you refocus on WHO is being served by what you are doing, why and how you are doing it you will be LIT UP inside and ready to do whatever it takes to get it accomplished.

Which switch will you flip? Actually, which one really doesn’t matter…….as long as it matters to you— PASSIONATELY.

For more information on this topic check out Darren Hardy-

Have your What, Why, How & Who figured out? Great! I’d love to hear what it is that you’re passionate about! πŸ˜„ Please share in a comment below.